So, for awhile during 2007 and part of 2008 I lead a Life Group, basically it’s a small group (which is a group of people that come together and do life together and study the Bible).
This is probably one of the first ones I did. So without further ado, here are the notes I had, there was of course some conversation about each verse, but you get the general idea.
Life group Message – “What is Selfish Pride”
Originally By: Wayne Blank
Does “God oppose the proud, but give grace to the humble”? Read 1 Peter 5:5
What is Pride? The dictionary says pride is, “a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.”
What is Selfish? The dictionary says selfish as being, “devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.”
What is Selfish Pride?
Selfish pride can be defined as “excessive confidence or glorification in one’s self, possessions or nation.” The concept is found in The Bible, along with pride itself, in words such as arrogance, haughtiness and conceit, among others, all of which are opposite of Godly humility. The wrongness of self-centered pride is essentially twofold. On a spiritual level, it inevitably leads to disregard, disrespect and disobedience to God i.e. self-centered pride is primarily what transformed the once-righteous Lucifer into the wicked Satan after he became too impressed with himself, Isaiah 14:14 says, “I will make myself like the Most High.” On a worldly level, selfish pride very often results in self-destructive behavior because, while a form of self-delusion, it isn’t necessarily as much an overestimation of one’s self as it is a dangerous underestimation of others, hence, Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” The Bible also speaks of a good pride, but it differs greatly from selfish pride.
Selfish pride is sin:
“To fear the LORD is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech.” (Proverbs 8:13 NIV)
“12 For the sins of their mouths, for the words of their lips, let them be caught in their pride. For the curses and lies they utter,
13 consume them in wrath, consume them till they are no more. Then it will be known to the ends of the earth that God rules over Jacob. Selah.” (Psalm 59:12-13 NIV)
“3 He boasts of the cravings of his heart; he blesses the greedy and reviles the LORD. 4 In his pride the wicked does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God.” (Psalm 10:3-4 NIV)
“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” (Proverbs 11:2 NIV)
God will humble those who don’t humble themselves:
Leviticus 26:18-21 - “18 ‘If after all this you will not listen to me, I will punish you for your sins seven times over. 19 I will break down your stubborn pride and make the sky above you like iron and the ground beneath you like bronze. 20 Your strength will be spent in vain, because your soil will not yield its crops, nor will the trees of the land yield their fruit. 21 ‘If you remain hostile toward me and refuse to listen to me, I will multiply your afflictions seven times over, as your sins deserve.”
“The eyes of the arrogant man will be humbled and the pride of men brought low; the LORD alone will be exalted in that day.” (Isaiah 2:11 NIV)
“A man’s pride brings him low, but a man of lowly spirit gains honor.” (Proverbs 29:23 NIV)
The Bible also speaks of a good form of pride, but there is a difference – it’s based on a pride for others who are living in obedience to God.
“1Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God.2Make room for us in your hearts. We have wronged no one, we have corrupted no one, we have exploited no one. 3I do not say this to condemn you; I have said before that you have such a place in our hearts that we would live or die with you. 4I have great confidence in you; I take great pride in you. I am greatly encouraged; in all our troubles my joy knows no bounds.” (2 Corinthians 7:1-4 NIV)
“We are not trying to commend ourselves to you again, but are giving you an opportunity to take pride in us, so that you can answer those who take pride in what is seen rather than in what is in the heart.” (2 Corinthians 5:12 NIV)